“Don’t be selfish; don’t try to impress others. Be humble, thinking of others as better than yourselves. Don’t look out only for your own interests, but take an interest in others, too.” Philippians 2:3-4
Not everything in life is or should be a competition. "I win" should not always be the goal. Having the mindset that "They win" will put us in a position to help others and placing their interests before our own.