God commands us to Love Him and He also commands us to love others. There is no commandment to be loved by others. When our goal is to be loved by others, our actions are often wrong and self serving. That does not mean that our goal is to be hated by others, but when our goal is to be "liked" or we avoid conflict in order to not be disliked, then we are not loving others the way God wants us to love others.
Lord, help me to avoid loving myself as the first and only commandment.