Boastful and bragging both include the aspect of "excessive-ness". When we brag or boast, we bring excessive attention to ourselves. There isn't anything wrong with wanting to be recognized. Everyone desires to be recognized. But when we take the spotlight off of others, when it should remain on them, then that is wrong. During this time of pain, it is human for us to want to share our own experiences, in an attempt to relate. During a time of pain, the best action is to listen. When we listen, we make it about the other person and not ourselves, and that shows love.
Lord, help me to put the attention on You and on others to show love.