Being a victim is a choice. It may not be our choice to have harm come to us at the hands of someone else but it is our choice in how we handle that violation. Being a victim after the negative experience is a state of mind. A victim isa person who allows others to negatively impact their lives. Just as a terrorist attack is more than the physical act or event but also the mental attack of fear of future events, being a victim can either be a negative event or we can allow it to be a mindset of fear and lack of control. It is bad enough when someone abuses or takes advantage of us but it is much worse when we allow that person's actions to dictate our joy and quality of life as we move forward. A victim is also a person who allows past mistakes to prevent themselves from moving on with life. A person can be both victimized by others and even by themselves. A victim allows others or their own experiences to imprison themselves. We have choice and free will. Someone may impose themselves on us but it is up to us to allow that imposition to either be a momentary violation or a long term foot on our neck. We can choose to be victims or we can choose to be conquers. We can make a conscious choice to not allow others to dictate our joy.