Two beneficial tools to have in your toolbox - being intentional and being proactive. Waiting around for success to happen will only result in a lot of waiting. Furthermore, only reacting to life as it happens will either keep you treading water or cause you to sink. If you want to move forward in life, be intentional and be proactive. Do something. Anything. Even if you fail at it. At least you are trying and you are learning something and eliminating bad options. And if you can't move forward right now in a certain area, then instead of trying harder, try different. Like the paralytic at the well (John 5:1-15), don't expect someone to throw you into the water ... if you want to be healed, pick up your mat and walk.