Try this today: Whenever you find yourself wanting to use the word "Can't", replace it with the phrase "I choose not to". You most likely will find out two realizations about yourself. (1) you will find out what you truly value. We often use "I can't" when we really mean "This isn't of enough value for me to be uncomfortable or to give up something I find more valuable". It's amazing how fast "can't" turns to "can" when enough money is offered. (2) We often use "I can't" when we have already failed at something and we don't want to invest the time and energy to try again ... or again ... or again. When we say "I can't", we already have failed. When we say, "I choose to try", we may still fail but we also open the door for success. Either way, we win as we learn much more from failing than succeeding anyway. The only thing we learn from not trying is how not to try.