We are typically commanded to do things that we would not normally do on our own. There is a big difference between a "suggestion" and a "command". Commands happen when we don't want to do them. God commands us to love others because honestly, we have a hard time doing this because we are selfish humans. But just because it is a command, it doesn't mean the action is bad or that God is a meany.
Lord, help me to follow Your commands, and if possible, do it without being commanded or even forced to do so.